When we heard about Carol Tuttle’s book The Child Whispererwe were intrigued!The basis for the book is that every child expresses one (or more!) of four general patterns in their body language, behavior and personality. They’re what Tuttle calls the “Four Types.” The idea is that if you honor your child for who they are the most core level they will be happier, more cooperative, and you will need to discipline them less. We’re listening, Carol!
To help illustrate these types, Carol has come up with four Spring activities to do with your kids based on their “type.” Each of our kids seems to fit into one main type with a 1-2 sub types as well. While we never feel that labeling or pigeon-holing children is productive, (they go through phases as fast as undies in potty-training season!) we love that Carol has taken very basic, very intrinsic qualities and defined how to best parent and communicate based on their needs. Children are so unique and wildly different from one another, parents of multiple children can attest, it’s a nice reminder to really learn how to honor them for what makes them so special and unique to us.
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Okay, now for the activities! First, up TYPE 1:
The Fun-loving “Type 1″ Child
Socially oriented to the world, these children move through life with a bounce. They love activities with surprises, imagination, and people. Some ideas:
- No-Reason Party: Throw a party for no reason! Doesn’t have to be elaborate—it just needs friends. Even better if it’s a surprise.
- Surprise Drive: Let your child tell you where to turn the car. Who knows where you’ll end up!
- Say Yes: These children have endless ideas. Say yes to one that you normally wouldn’t.
Emotionally oriented, these children are gentle and mindful in nature. Naturally quieter, they enjoy activities to unwind or feel comfortable.
- Read-a-thon: Prepare a comfy space, stock up on books and snacks, and your child is in heaven!
- Game Plan: These kids LOVE to plan—let them plan a family meal or outing.
- Best Friend: These children relate best one-on-one. Invite over one friend.
Physically oriented, these children move fast and are SO determined. They enjoy competitive activities where they can get their hands dirty.
- Race Day: Hold an informal race at the park, or sign up for a 5k. These children love the push of competition.
- Build Up: They love projects—let them build something.
- Open for Business: Natural entrepreneurs, these children love earning extra money, whether through a lemonade stand or jobs around the house.
The More Serious “Type 4″ Child
Intellectually oriented, these children have an analytical, perfecting nature. They like activities that allow them to focus on a single mental track. Some ideas:
- Alone Time: Without down-time, these kids get cranky. Give them space.
- Picture Perfect: Let them color perfectly, make a recipe perfectly, or put something together perfectly. Let your child decide what perfect looks like.
- Just Ask: These kids see themselves as their own authorities. If you want to plan the perfect activity for them, ask what they want to do!
For more in depth discussion about types, customized parenting tips, and discipline, check out The Child Whisperer!