FRYday: Taking It With Me 2016

Good morning! To sort of recap the last year for all of us, we are focusing the next few Frydays solely on things we discovered in 2015 that are so wonderful we’ll keep on using them in 2016. Whether it’s material or a more figurative gem, this is the best of our two thousand fifteens. Emily is up first!

In 2016 I’m taking these things with me from last year …

For my face: Proper exfoliating, something I hadn’t been doing often enough but have seen awesome results last year! Love this all-natural one, and if you don’t like it you have 60 days money back guarantee. Thatcher’s Rose Petal Witch Hazel, I love the smell and the old time pharmacy branding. // 2015 the year of the brow, right? I don’t see myself stopping the fill-in, and just ran out of AB’s Dip Brow Pomade, I use blonde. // My husband brought this home for my dry Winter Desert lips and it’s amazing! Say Yes to Coconut Cooling Oil. Sounds crazy but it works so good.em2016

For my body: This pregnancy I have not been able to eat as healthy as I normally do, so I sort of have to make up for it in other ways. 😉 I’ve found my way back to yoga and that focused stretching and strengthening has been so great for my growing bod. Even more than physically, struggling with even more rampant anxiety while pregnant – it’s become mandatory.

For my home: Got rid of my microwave, and became and OCD recycler. Ha! Switched out my cleaning supplies for more eco-friendly family safe brands. Really just attempted to make more environmentally-friendly decisions and found it to be easy to do. I might not use the most/best/greenest products available, but they’re effective and convenient for me and all better than what we were using before. A win! These specifically work amazing, or even better than what I had before!  Honest Window Cleaner // Mrs Meyers Toilet Bowl //  Tubby Todd Hair & Body Wash //

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For my well-being: I heard this poem by Tyler Knott Gregson, “Promise me you will not spend so much time treading water and trying to keep your head above the waves that you forget, truly forget, how much you have always loved to swim.”

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This hit me hard on so many levels. So many things I love to do I let become heavy. Even amazing things, even things I wanted to do my whole life, like be a mom. Sure, things ARE heavy some times, but this is such a great reminder to keep things in perspective.

For my kids: In my rush to get “it” all done, I noticed I was also rushing past certain aspects of my conversations with my boys. Skipping to the moral of the story, skipping to the discipline, skipping past patience. I focused last year on “Validating First” meaning before I do anything else, I validate their feelings and then move to the next step. Sometimes when I’m puzzled about parenting, the only thing I can think to do is to treat them how I want to be treated, and nothing feels better than being validated, right? I noticed such a huge difference in how they accept things they don’t want to hear if they are validated first. I want to keep this as a focus always!
For my closet: Forgetting about that badge of honor from past pregnancies — “I wore my regular pants until ___ weeks!” or “I never bought a single maternity top” Whatever! My stomach was popping out at the gate, I guess that’s what happens when you’ve done this a few times before. I’m investing in maternity clothes that I love and that are comfortable and not feeling bad about it for one second. Jcrew Toothpick Maternity jeans are new for me, and are my favorite. I am not tall, but I get the tall size when I want them to hit past my ankle, but I love them cropped too for Spring! We’ve got a few big events this month so I’ll be sharing lots more and how they look on. Stay tuned!jeans
Lesson learned: I know most people don’t have any problem with this, but this last year I had to really learned and be coached (there’s me talking about therapy again) on how to set boundaries. I have a handful of relationships in my life that just don’t respond to them (or respond poorly), so while I know exactly what boundaries I want for myself, I had to be taught how to enforce them and not feel guilty about it. Yeah, almost 30 over here. It’s never too late to learn something new, right?

Letting go of: My twenties! I turn 30 in a few weeks and as I reflect on my twenties, it makes me tired. It was such an emotional decade, with family craziness from start to finish. Besides that, I hustled so, so hard. I worked full-time through school, always had styling jobs, photoshoots, gigs on the side, side projects and markets. I put myself out there in every way, nearly everyday. My every thought was written into a blog post or tweet or Instagram. I feel proud of all I was able to do! I just feel differently now. Of course I want to work hard and be successful, but I just have to reign it in. I can’t do and be everything, and for the first time in my adulthood, I don’t want to! Hoping this new mellowed out Emily lasts, because I am enjoying this slower pace and this more private, edited life.

Happy weekend, everyone! We hope you all have a chance to reflect on your 2015 gems, and share them here!

Comments

  1. Andi:
    on January 8, 2016 at 10:16 am said:

    I’ve always admired your way with words, Thanks Emily!

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