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Fashion

prime buys #1

September 14, 2019

back to school ’19: girls

August 14, 2019

Boys Back to School Ideas

back to school ’19: boys

August 13, 2019

crz yoga | prime day 2019

July 14, 2019

summer momiform

July 9, 2019

Wester Chief Muckers

muckers!

June 13, 2019

ulta 21 days sale

ulta 21 days

March 23, 2019

Valentine's Duds for Kids

Valentine’s Duds for Kids

February 5, 2019

Opposite

holiday best [kids!]

December 15, 2018

holiday best

holiday best

December 7, 2018

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Christmas Cards 2020. I wish I could send one to e

Christmas Cards 2020. I wish I could send one to each and every one of you. Your kind messages, being my grieving village, mourning with those that mourn. It has all felt so sacred to me. Please take this small gesture and know how much you have all meant to me!! ⠀
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And now for a quick small + sustainable shop shout out! We used @paperculture #gifted — 100% recycled, 100% carbon footprint offset, and they plant a tree with every order. Super quick shipping and I’m so happy with the quality and options. If you want a company worth using, Paper Culture is ticking all the boxes for me. These photos were snapped by a friend on my iPhone, I picked a color palette for clothes and literally dumped everything we owned in a pile and hoped for the best. Easy was just what I needed this year and so pleased with the end result.

A few books on my shelf that have meant so much to

A few books on my shelf that have meant so much to me the last couple months. If you have given me a book, a song, a poem, or an impression, please know you are my people, and it has meant the world to me. ♡ ⠀
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Before everything happened with Collin I had listened The Dutch House. I loved it so much I ordered a hard copy and planned on reading it again as soon as it arrived. I am not a re-reader so *that* is how much I loved it. I jot little notes down for the reviews and pulled them up to write this post. It had said “The sweetest story of a funny brother and his sister. Will break and remake your heart.” Not sure I can bring myself to re-read it right now, if you’ve read it you know why, but no wonder I loved it so much. Also, Tom Hanks’ narration is actual perfection.⠀
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The other three books were gifted to me and I would highly recommend if you’re going through a loss or need a way to support someone who is. Francis Weller is a freakin’ treasure. And the Year of Magical Thinking is as well. And Mother’s Milk is a specific kind of comfort, but something that has been on my mind so much. ⠀
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I posted the rest of my book reviews on my site, 2 of which made my top 3 for 2020 which were The Dutch House, American Dirt and The Heart’s Invisible Furies. What was your favorite read this year? #smallfrybooks #bookstack

The reviews are in a 9 out of 10 agree: “Like ho

The reviews are in a 9 out of 10 agree: “Like holding Russ Frame in a onesie.”⠀
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Woodrow Shia is 9 months!! 37 weeks in, 37 out. Maybe for the first time ever time went as slowly pregnant as it did when he was out!🧐⠀
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🚧Mom stats ahead ——> Standing solo, walking around furniture, climbing stairs, into ev-e-ry-thing. 🥵 Still sweet as a lamb, plays with my hair to fall asleep and seems to have a sense for who needs some TLC and does not hold back. Thankful everyday for this baby we never knew how much we needed.
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FAMILY - deep breaths. ⠀ My single greatest teac

FAMILY - deep breaths.
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My single greatest teacher in this life. It has taught me to love without expectation, to forgive and protect, to apologize and try again, to set boundaries and hold to them. My most important lesson being to honor and respect where my family is in their own healing. To not push or prod, to just let them be. I feel really blessed (and poor, as it took a lot of therapy💸) to feel nothing but love. Is it easy? Heck no. But, I hold no anger or ill will.⠀

When my parents split the divorce was nasty. I can’t imagine divorce as a kid, but as a young adult, it hurt. A lot. We lost our sense of home, and we all sort of spun out into our own directions. Collin was the one who came to me and said, “That’s it! We’re starting Kartchner 2.0. For whoever wants to show up and be a family.” And limping and bruised we did just that. We all had to step into roles we weren’t necessarily built for, and lift where we stood, even when hurting and angry — we showed up. ⠀
Some of my most sacred experiences came from the ashes of a family burned. Walking my sister down the aisle. Standing by my brother as he got sober. Sobbing with my sisters in a pile on the floor at my house, unable to stand another second, heartbroken for our brother. And I’m only just skimming the surface of whatever Collin has in store for me now. How amazing to know the some of our best days haven’t happened yet?!⠀
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It’s not a great feeling to know that the complexities of your family are being discussed on forums and by strangers (Not reading word of it, don’t worry.) No one except us will ever know the truth, and that’s okay, because truly it’s nunya. 😉⠀
But, I just wanted to share this today because I know the Holidays for many are painful. It’s hard to see seemingly picture perfect families and wonder why we struggle so hard. But I know firsthand there is beauty in the ashes. There can be healing even when no one is saying sorry. And you are not alone.

To my parents, Chad, Keira, Charity, Tim, Collin, Liz, Russ, Bethany, Lauren, Casey and everyone we’ve given life to since, thank you for being my family. I love you all. #givethanks #lovelikecollin

When we first moved to our small town a couple yea

When we first moved to our small town a couple years ago I prayed around the clock that my boys would find friends here. They have now, but at the time, it wasn’t smooth sailing. I would take it super hard when they didn’t hit it off with someone, and at my lowest, felt like we made a big mistake. If we were supposed to be here, shouldn’t it be easier?⠀
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Not long after, a neighbor Abby mentioned having Cal play with her son. I truly couldn’t fit all of the challenges Ty and his little body have faced in this caption. Countless surgeries, specialists, medications, and more. He is unique in every way and I thought to myself and maybe even told Abby🙈, “Cal’s just not your guy.” He’s an introvert and a loose cannon, and truly DGAF’s about what anyone thinks of him. He once told me he wouldn’t play with a boy because he smiled too much.😆🙇🏼‍♀️ I thought I would save potentially hurting Abby or Ty’s feelings, and to be honest, avoiding my own embarrassment at what might happen. I had long abandoned trying to fit Cal into the mold I had made for him. What I thought the world needed him to be.
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Gratefully, Abby didn’t give up and we finally got them together. Fast forward a couple of years and the Frames count ourselves so incredibly lucky. Lucky that we get to know and love Ty. Who makes every single one of us laugh until we have tears running down our faces. Who tells me I am so beautiful every time he sees me. Who entertains and plays with us through every church meeting, for hours in our home, and most importantly brings out the very best in Cal. The most happy, patient, imaginative, focused, silly Cal.⠀
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Ty is my reminder of so many things: ⠀
•To get out of my kids’ way. ⠀
•Let them lead, but champion them every step of the way. (Abby taught me that)⠀
•That their (my, your) potential is limitless. ⠀
•We are not our bodies, we are so, so much more. ⠀
•To see things as God sees them. Because He answers our prayers and blesses us in his perfect way, even if we don’t have the eyes to see it perfectly all the time.
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#givethanks

For this guy. Who has been a witness to it all, si

For this guy. Who has been a witness to it all, since I was 15. 🤟🏼🎢 Marriage is filled with duality - one side giving meaning to the other. Better or worse. Feast and famine. Faith and doubt. Although we usually want the same results, our methods are rarely if ever (ever) the same. 😆 Grateful he has never tried to change me, but still challenges and inspires growth just by being himself. I know he could be gone in an instant and I pray I get to pick up his socks for many years to come. #givethanks

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