Thank you all for your congratulations on my gender reveal earlier this week! It’s always more fun to share things with you guys and it meant so much to me to read all your sweet words. Before our appointment, I was getting lots of “You’ve come this far, just don’t find out!” type of comments and it got me thinking how the whole thing goes down for those of you who opt to wait to know until delivery! So we teamed up with Shutterfly to do some digging and get a whole gender neutral experience put together for you all who might be curious, too! All these gender neutral shower invitations pictured throughout are from Shutterfly! There were so many neutral options to choose from, and personalizing them (even with little quotes on the back!) was such a breeze. Being able to choose color, font, even down to the way the invites are cut makes it feel so custom without the headache. I loved seeing how high quality each element was, definitely something we’d be proud to mail out! [Delightful Polka Dots Invite (the quote says “Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body” — Elizabeth Stone) with Red envelopes and Classic Yellow Address Labels] First, up I had to know the specifics for how parents decide to not find out. So we interviewed two willing readers and here’s what we learned! 1. What was your initial reason for waiting until delivery to find out? “My husband didn’t want to find out, but I did. We went out to dinner and decided the only fair way to decide was to flip a coin. He won.” – Deanna “I never wanted to know. My older sister had done it with some of her kids and talked about how exciting the delivery room was…the anticipation. I live for a good surprise, so I was sold.” – Erika [Baby on the Way Invitations customized with a standard rounded edge and the due date and pregnancy picture on the back! // Peaceful Promise Address Labels] 2. Was it hard, easy, or different than what you thought it would be? “It was both easier and harder than I expected. It was especially difficult because both of my sisters were also pregnant and due within a month of me. They both found out that they were having boys and were buying matching outfits and things for their boys. It was easier once I got past that 20 week ultrasound and didn’t have a choice any longer.” – Deanna “My pregnancies were all easy, no complications, so I never had a ton of ultrasounds to tempt me. Or they say “But I have to PLAN!” You can do all that and not know the gender. There are so many adorable gender neutral clothes and decor.” – Erika 3. What were some perks to not knowing? [Little Loungewear Sunshine Invitations // Polka Dot Thanks Address Labels (the matching thank you cards are also darling!] “I think the biggest perk was that everyone bought stuff off of our registry instead of cute outfits, shoes, hats, etc. We literally received every item we needed and hardly any clothes. Another perk was that I got to go out and buy clothes that matched my style and the personality of my baby instead. And of course, the moment that my husband yelled “It’s a boy” will forever be etched in my mind.” – Deanna “I LOVE to have a big crowd in my delivery room…the more the merrier. I think my 4 sisters were just as excited and anxious as Tyler and I were for each delivery. The screams of “It’s a girl!” or “It’s a boy!” are indescribable! (and then my mom would race out to buy up new boy or girl babies clothes for me to open while at my stay in the hospital.)” – Erika 4. Were there specific events, times of your pregnancy where it was harder than others? “The weeks surrounding my sisters finding out that they were both having boys were the most difficult. Also, my little sister is a labor and delivery nurse and was constantly offering to do an ultrasound on me. I considered it every time she offered, but always knew I had to stay true to the deal I had made with my husband.” – Deanna “You just have to have serious self control for twenty minutes during your ultrasound and then you’re home free.” – Erika
So what do you all think? Is it doable for you? Something that entices or excites you? I got teary-eyed reading and picturing both Deanna and Erika’s level 10 excitement when they finally learn “It’s a boy!” at the end. Is there anything more thrilling?! I always like the idea of getting the actual stuff you need from your loved ones and picking out clothing and accessories on your own, it really is such fun and personal experience that I enjoy a lot!
Now that you have a few awesome customizable invite options from Shutterfly, here are some of our favorite gifts that could swing either way, too! Solly Baby Wrap – this comes in so many beautiful shades but the gray stripe is perfectly neutral and goes with everything! // Gertie the Good Goose, a cousin to the classic Giraffe but we love the pops of orange! Free of any chemicals and super safe for babies // Diapers! Diapers are such a necessity and having them shipped to you is the best gift of all. Via Honest. // Books! We’ve had friends hold book only showers, where the guest of honor just gets great baby books! You can never have too many of those and this book is a touch and feel book which makes it tip top in our book! // Freshly Picked Moccasins, their Crib moccs are perfect for new feet and this gray is neutral and so sweet. // I also loved the idea of everyone going in on one awesome splurge gift like a stroller or car seat. This beautiful bassinet would make any mama so happy! // Finding gender neutral toys is easier and easier these days, this modern rocking chair is something they can grow into for years to come!
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