hi-chew halloween

So excited to partner up with HI-CHEW today to share our family Halloween Costumes!! Since we moved to our rental we’re in walking distance from a corner store and every time without fail my kids pick HI-CHEWs. It’s their favorite so as far as dream partnerships, this one might be it for them. 😉 HI-CHEW has these Original Mix gusset bags filled with  multiple flavors perfect for treat bags or pinatas, they’re perfect little bites! Hi Chew HalloweenThese sticks are what we’re handing out for trick-or-treaters! You can buy all of these candies at Wal-Mart, Target or Amazon!Hi Chew HalloweenI have wanted to use this theme for my family most of my adult life. My kids knew that this was important to me and I think they caught on to my passion… OR they had a plethora of HI-CHEWs on hand and basically free reign to eat them while we got our photos. You be the judge.Rock and Roll Family CostumeThese boys don’t agree on much but Strawberry is both of their favorite flavor HI-CHEW. Cheers to that! Mine is Kiwi, Russ loves Green Apple. Which is your favorite?Rock and Roll Family CostumeYou already know my love for closet costumes and my tip for big group theme costumes is to find your inspiration images and then try and divvy the costumes out based on what each person already has in their closet! So Freddie Mercury in a singlet? Raleigh wears one basically everyday. Done.Rock and Roll Family CostumeEach holiday I like to get my boys a suit for the next year and so I strategically worked these suits into the costume ideas. Why not find multiple uses, right?Rock and Roll Family CostumeThe only thing I had to source for my costume was the top hat! I am sort of obsessed with it now.Stevie Nicks Costume

Russ could care less about Halloween but he’s always a good sport so if anyone would be cool with a full face of make-up it was him! Since it’s just an iconic look I didn’t worry too much about what he wore on bottom which I am sure he was grateful for because Bowie loved him some spandex.HiChew HalloweenThanks to HI-CHEW for making this dream a reality, a family band is all I ever wanted.








Holy smokes this week was nuts. There are so many wonderful things in the pipeline for Small Fry and that always means exhaustion and then waiting and then I get to share. So, step one is hopefully complete for while!

We have UEA this weekend so the kids are home and it is also mine and Russ’ 12 year anniversary today! We had plans to go to Vegas for a couple days but we had to cancel due to some needs at the house. So we’re sticking around here! We’d love to go somewhere special for dinner either in Utah County or SLC? Any recs?

A few weekend deals for you:

Madewell extra 30% off sale! My faves:

WATCHING: On my flights last week I finally started Poldark. I totally get the hype. In the back of my head I am constantly trying to plan out a time to watch another episode. Ha.

READING: I finished the three self-help books I talked about last time here’s my quickest review. If you are like me and don’t want things to be too serious, or more specifically self-important I’d say read You Are A Badass over The Universe Has Your Back. Jen Sincero is just more my speed. Super funny and easier to process. Also Love Warrior was beautiful. She says things that people (or maybe just me?) feel to ashamed to even think sometimes and the whole book is hard but also a relief. If you want something moving and real, read it! Also reading Salt to the Sea for my book club, so far so meh. Why am I not getting into it?! It’s incredibly well rated. We’ll see how it turns out!

LISTENING: I met Bev in Vermont and her playlists are legit! This one is particularly charming. If you just need something to turn on and forget she’s got a playlist for just about any need. Also Small Fry is on Spotify too if you want kid-friendly beats that won’t make you want to die. Looking at you Wiggles. Our Lullaby playlist is my fave.

DECORATING: Basically that’s all I think about but haven’t actually made any purchases.  Except for a small fortune on windows this week, but you know what I mean. How does one build a house and then afford to fill it with things to sit/lay on? Asking for a friend. But in effort to not make this section of the post totally pointless here are some inspiration images for what I hope to accomplish in the kitchen!

This is probably the closest I have found to what I am aiming for: two tone cabinets, waterfall island. So good! // Source#framefarme Inpso

Source#framefarme inspo Source#framefarme inspo The styling literally hurts my eyes but lots of you asked about the loft in Insta Stories, here’s a good representation for the feel of it. Glass railing across the top for super open feel. // Source#framefarme inspo One more … major inspiration for the laundry room in the basement! I figure I won’t get sick of it because I never do laundry. 😉 We’re sort of winging it but I hope it ends up this rad!#framefarme inspo

Happy Fryday, Fall Break, and anniversary everyone!!


budget home: dot and bo

Dot & Bo has a sale going on today so let’s check them off the list of Budget Home stops I love and haven’t covered yet! ALSO! Sharing a quick video tour on Insta Stories of the house progress if you want to check it out! We have a busy week up at the house and our next update the house is going to look a lot different! Eek!

Top Row – Love this chaise slash bench for an entry way. // I LOVE these chairs, and know several of my friends do too, these are 2 for $150 which I feel like is a freaking steal! // This couch comes in a few colors and is $800 down from $2000. Super long and great lines could be styled to suit so many different decor tastes!

Middle Row- For those of you on the hunt for outdoor furniture this set is under $1000. I know they’re hard to find and this one comes in to colors! This set of shelves with built in hanging bars is genius. Comes with 2 and would be a nice break from the regular towel bar we’re all forced to buy. // Another sweet bench for dining, entry, the foot of a bed. Easy and beautiful.

Bottom Row – Had to show the couch in gray. Its crazy how color totally changes the vibe. This easy end table with hair pin legs lends itself to so many different decor styles. On sale, too! In my experience you can’t even buy the supplies to DIY this table yourself for this cost, so for sure a good deal! // This modular set of shelves is such a great idea for a growing evolving family. If you move often, or like to switch things up in your house these are great! Change them up to fit whatever space or shape you like! I always love orange, too.Dot and Bo


We are very into CPW around here when it comes to Halloween. Cost per wear. Meaning that the more we can re-use the elements of a costume the better! With a few DIY or purchased accessories, make-up or amazing hair-dos you’re all set to trick or treat and then you can hang that costume back in your closet to enjoy the rest of the year! Historically all of our costumes have been this way, so either we’re real lazy or real consistent. I went back through and tagged them as #SFclosetcostume and I would LOVE to see yours! Add the tags to new or old posts and I’ll repost favorites the rest of the month! So today, I am rounding up my favorites from around the web and sharing one new one for you to peep.

ASTRONAUT RALEIGH!Closet Costume IdeasSweater: from this set from ED by Ellen Degeneres C/O // Pants: Old Navy $6 right now! // Moccs: // New Nasa line via Freshly Picked C/O // Helmet: Via AmazonCloset Costume Ideas Closet Costume Ideas Closet Costume IdeasAnother amazing resource is June and January’s hashtag #jjhalloween. Look at these!!#SFclosetcostumes

#jjhalloween 1&2 // Doll // Poison Ivy & Artist // Granny & Frida // Beanie Baby // Home Alone

More from our archives!Closet Costumes Closet Costumes

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Gnome Costume // James and the Giant Peach // Vector from Despicable Me //





World Mental Health Day. 10.10.

I remember the first time I had a (recognizable) panic attack. It was the 3rd of July, I was 18 and my now husband and I had broken up for the umpteenth time. Except this time was different. He moved on. He was dating someone else and when I dropped off a box of his stuff I saw her name written all over a piece of paper on his bedside table. I was being left behind. Probably because I was too much. Too many emotions, too much of a rollercoaster. More trouble than I was worth.#worldmentalhealthdayphoto by Brooke Palmer.

On the 3rd of July basically everyone I know goes to the parade route for the next day, where there is music and drive-bys and carnival food and boys checking out girls and girls pretending not to notice. My best friend and I went down to check it out and saw him there. We hung out on a patch of grass and he was nice. Nice, but distant. Like a flight attendant, smiling, but smiling for anyone and not for you to know. Then before I knew it he was gone. I saw him in the distance with her. Opening the car door for her and driving away. I drove a scooter at that point and so my friend and I hopped back on it and very casually sped past them. Just hoping to be seen. In the process hitting the side of his car with my longboard that was sticking out under me a foot on each side. Smooth, Em.

The memories after that point are fuzzy. Time passes but the next thing I know is I am alone running home. Not to my college apartment, my actual home miles away. I am in booty shorts and high top converse and I am hurtling down the biggest, busiest road in my town. My legs are begging to move forward and I can hardly breathe. It is too much now. All of it.

This very same Summer my parents are splitting up. My dad has chosen someone else, too.

A few cars pull over to see if I am okay. “I’m fine, thanks!” I squeak out.

I am not fine.

“Are you okay miss, can I give you a ride somewhere?” – “I’m okay, just on a run!” They look me up and down and surely are thinking who runs in Volcom shorts and Chucks? #2004

I am not okay.

When I finally get home I fall into my mom’s bed. Not my dad’s anymore. And my body erupts. I am sobbing, I am not breathing, my heart will beat out of my chest, but I don’t know how to slow it down anymore.

After this night my heart races like I am running down that highway for three more days. I can’t eat, parts of my body go numb, my fluttering stomach doesn’t relent. These are my symptoms. And I’ve had them a thousand times since.

Anxiety is the answer to so many of my questions. I desperately want control and can’t have it, anxiety arrives. I can’t predict an outcome, so anxiety offers me the very worst options and makes it seem like a done deal. If I feel happy, anxiety lurks to remind me how quickly it can be taken away. I have a flash of a memory where I did it all wrong, where I uncovered too much, bam, anxiety. I get a voicemail. There it is again.

If you don’t know, you don’t know. It is the worst of clubs to be in, yet I feel peace with my membership. Knowing so when someone tells me they have it too I can grab their shoulder and we can pass the knowing around. Of all the things I wish I could give back, I will keep the deep empathy.

I think I resent it most because my baseline is so much higher than anyone else I know. When you have a full pot of water and it finally spills over, how can you know which drop of water was the one who caused the spill? My kids feel the weight of it because they’re who I am with the most. And they’re usually the drop that spills it, even though so many other cups filled it that have nothing to do with them. I can’t think about this too much or I get swallowed up by shame. I just do my damn best. And I have to tell them how it feels to be me and I am sorry and I did it all wrong, and they always hug my neck extra tight and say “It’s okay, mom.”

I don’t know why I felt compelled to write this at 5 in the morning the day after mental health day. Maybe that I couldn’t sleep because my anxiety was through the roof? Maybe because I am so tired of everyone walking around like they are okay when they’re not.

It’s okay to not be okay. What is not okay is to push your-self down, down, down, so deep that you can’t escape. If you are dealing with these things, come back up where you can be seen. Where you can feel and be felt, you might feel like you are too much, and I get that with my whole heart, but this is your life. You get to live it, wholly.

Here’s what I’ve tried and what has worked, for the helpful or not.

  1. Don’t stir the beast. I do my best not to rile myself up. I avoid the triggers, I don’t get excited for good or for bad. I stay leveled and I try not to spike either way. This is why so many people who don’t really know me say “She’s super chill, she’s mellow.”  And I am, but also I am not. Ya feel me?
  2. Breathe, gosh dangit. Someone told me how to breathe right and this helps 100% of the time. You breathe in slowly for three seconds and you exhale slowly for 4 seconds. Keep doing it until you calm.
  3. Post panic attack it is really hard for me to get the symptoms off my back and I was prescribed a tranquilizer that I can take to help me fall asleep in those occasions. I am deathly afraid of medication, but I feel a little safer knowing it is there. I tried anti-depressants and I found they weren’t worth the daily side effects, for me. I recently started using CBD oil and that is actually super helpful. I feel like it takes my baseline back down to the land of the living making it a whole lot easier to navigate the spikes. The point of this being that it takes some work to find what will help you, don’t give up.
  4. Mediate, talk yourself through it out loud. Do yoga or run it out or find a kick boxing class. Eat right, dance to top 40 with your kids, say no and bow out and don’t feel bad for taking care of yourself in all the small ways, everyday, and have your arsenal ready when you need more grand gestures.
  5. If my husband had said this any year before 2017 I wouldn’t have been able to sort it out but this year he said “You just have to change the way you think” and at first I waved him off – you just don’t get it. But the more I think on it, the more I know it to be true. I know there are chemical imbalances and instances where this does not apply but for me, I am trying. To slow down enough that I can field my thoughts, validate them, re-write them, analyze and question them. To be inquisitive to my reaction of things more than I am to outside forces. To not believe everything I think, and try and give myself the benefit of the most helpful inner dialogue. Find you someone that will talk you through it out loud, too.

All my love, and mess, and heart,






booyah box

It seems totally bogus to say this but even as a blogger I get tired of decorating for holidays. My bread and butter! So Booyah Box makes total sense to me as a busy mom. Sometimes I just can’t, you know? I helped them a little bit with this Halloween box and am stoked they’re launching it today because I know a few of you at least could use this kind of shortcut, too! Essentially you can buy a birthday or holiday box and they send you an array of goods to help you celebrate. Check out what is included in their Halloween box (and get 15% off with “SMALLFRY” at checkout. Booyah BoxAnd of course you can decorate the entirety of your house with all these goods, or you can create the ultimate Halloween totem. It reminds me of those Christmas sweaters, what are they called? Anyhow, I loved stacking them all up in my entry for maximum impact!Booyah Box Booyah Box Booyah Box

Go show them some love!! And don’t forget the coupon code! “SMALLFRY” for 15% off.

wholesome sweets

Sponsored by Wholesome, all opinions are my own.

Halloween! I love it so much, and for awhile I even love having the candy stash. Until I don’t. You feel me? I’ve been wondering what I could hand out or keep around the house that is festive and tasty, but not loaded with artificial ingredients. Hello, Wholesome!! (Find a store near you here.) Their candy is GMO free, natural ingredients and Organic, too!Wholesome Halloween

In addition, Cal is making some new friends at school and one of his new buddies has severe allergies. It has opened my eyes as we navigate playdates and making sure we keep him safe! As we get ready for Halloween and helping out in their classroom it made me think about how I can be more accommodating toward these tough little kids who have to grow up pretty fast and be mindful of what they eat, and miss out on a lot of what their peers are doing, too. So these products are a double whammy for me! (Learn more about their full line-up of organic mom-friendly treats and sweets here!)Wholesome Halloween

Since we’re on a pretty nonexistent budget to get his classroom all spookified here’s some easy ideas that are super inexpensive! Plus you can cash in on this Wholesome candies coupon offer to save some additional dollars this holiday!

  1. Decor that doubles as favors! We found these packs of spiders, bugs, skeletons and other spooky creatures which can decorate a tablescape, the walls or strung out for a banner. Then when the party is coming to a close have the kids pick a few of their favorites to take home!Wholesome Halloween
  2. You’re probably laughing as I have gotten my money’s worth of these stickers but it makes personalizing for a holiday so easy! Grab the bargain bags and put their names or festive sayings or words. Wholesome Halloween
  3. Make the treats part of an activity! Gummy skewers, necklaces, or art projects they can take home and eat = two birds, one stone.Wholesome Halloween

Another Wholesome option for the Big Day are these allergy-friendly (free of the top 10!) Surf Sweets individual packs, so easy to give out to trick or treaters and you can feel good knowing no matter what the kiddo can enjoy it (and you’ll enjoy saving $1 off these spooky snacks, too!)Wholesome HalloweenThese organic lollipops are individually wrapped too! My favorite flavor-wise are the gummy spiders, with these lollies in a close second!Wholesome HalloweenSo mamas, if you need a smart option for your own Halloween celebrations, check these out! If you don’t have a store in your area, check out their online store here to stock up on your Wholesome candies!






dusen dusen

Just wanted to share this shop that brings me endless inspiration and happiness. Started in 2010 by Ellen Dusen who resides in Brooklyn, NY, every bed set up makes me swoon. For how much time we spend in our beds, I think this is one area that deserves a little splurge! Way to go Dusen Dusen. Check out their clothing line, too!Dusen DusenDusen DusenDusen Dusen Dusen Dusen

weekend deals

Man, I can’t quite get myself back into the swing of things after the shooting in Vegas this week! Anyone else feeling totally out of it? I figured the best way to help me snap of out this funk is to just take a step back into my normal direction. Here’s some (perhaps superfluous) sales I spotted this week as shopping always cheers me up. 😉


Jcrew has 40% off some new arrivals! For those who asked about my lightweight rainboots last week – they’re included! (The one below that says a picture should be there X) Grab your favorite pajamas, a classic trench that is huge for Fall and you know will look great for decades to come.[show_boutique_widget id=”641671″]

Children’s Place is 50% off. Like puffer coats for less than $20. Nice outwear (the girls stuff is so cute!), suit jackets for under $30, dresses etc all for a steal. Pajamas for $10. Christmas pajamas anyone?  I wouldn’t bother with any of their graphic tees but I am loving everything else! // Gap is 40% off // Old Navy is up to 50%. They kill it in the baby girl department in my opinion, start there! // Cotton on Kids has clearance as well, they have some pretty cute Halloween options for $10! 5 for $10 on their cutest socks. Also I feel like their sweatshirts are their strong suit. They last way longer than their tees and the designs are so unique and fresh!

H&M kids stuff is up to 60% off! Random winter finds and things to stock up for next Summer, $6.99 leotards? No rhyme or reason to what they marked down but here are my faves:

And my monthly roundup at your ticket to China 😉 Romwe! A few sweaters with fresh details like fringe, lace-up and graphics. A long cardigan jacket that is huge this Fall, I’ve already seen versions on all my favorites online. A few shoe options that do a great job of knocking off much, much more expensive versions. Tees I’d live in and a jacket I already have and still love.



So many new things solving all my problems lately, let’s get right down to it!

First, the marble clips from my insta story. They’re so high quality and I love that they’re a little elevated from the standard. Three pack

Also so much TMI so you male readers might want to skip through the first couple paragraphs. 😉


  1. Found this bra and it eliminates side boob! It creates such smooth lines under shirts and is great under summer dresses and anywhere you need to eliminate that side boob action! It’s by Warner’s and the collection is called Easy Does It!
  2. I’ve used the Diva Cup for 2+ years now and I love the concept so much (its a reusable menstrual cup that eliminated my need for pads or tampons) I kept using it even though it wasn’t a great “fit.” Literally. On me it was just a bit too long. I heard my friend Ashley’s new venture the Bloody Buddy was shorter and also has a “tail” you can trim so I snagged them on Amazon! I am happy to report it is shorter so if you have had similar issues, go with the Bloody Buddy! Also her color selections are so much better (I got black) and they’re 20 for $20 when I paid $35 for one Diva Cup. WIN all around! While we’re at it, Ashley is such a good Follow on Instagram. I have been slow clapping all Summer as she walks the walk with the ever-popular self love talk we hear from influencers. She’s the real deal guys, and her recipes and tips are all so solid. Behind the scenes I am just grateful for her friendship and zen attitude in this business. Follow her here!
  3. This Target Sweater. I should have bought two because sweaters just aren’t the same after they’ve been washed a few times but its such a cute fit!
  4. Amazon sent this skin care line to try and after a few weeks I am actually loving it! I don’t have to review it but I thought it was worth a mention anyway. It’s as good a at-home facial as I’ve ever been able to track down and the smell is SO amazing. It makes me so happy every time I take the lids off. I especially love the Peeling and Serum products! The Peeling is like a gentle exfolating surface restoration that I put on at night and my skin is incredible in the morning. The Serum tightens skin and reduces my pores and evens everything out before I put make up on. LOVE them both. They have it in a gift set too!

DECORATING: I just ordered ALL my faucets from Ali Express. ACK! My friend Bri (her house reno is incredible, follow her to check it out!) led the way and says hers are holding up pretty great so I am taking the plunge. You guys their faucets are SO inexpensive. We did every single bathroom in the house for less than $1000. Fingers crossed they hold up!! Here are the sink faucets we chose, the pot filler for over the stove. And this shower set for the master. And these for the basement bathrooms!

READING: Outside of the monthly reviews I’m catching up on some popular self-help reads that I am sure you’ve seen recommended online. My friends reference them so damn much I felt like I needed to be in on it. Brene Brown is never a problem so I quickly finished her new book Into the Wilderness, super good the last chapter I need to re-read every morning, so powerful. She has a lot of great implementable tips of the divide the US is experiencing. I am in the middle of The Universe Has Your Back. As a religious and spiritual person it’s funny to hear these things that I’ve been taught my whole life, packaged in a new way. Its a great beginner look at energy, meditation, and owning your presence and internal vibrations. Sometimes cheesy, sometimes over the top, sometimes serving self-importance from the author, but I am enjoying it! I’d suggest a hardcopy on that one though, there’s a lot to refer back to! Next up, Love Warrior (saving my hardcopy for a couple plane rides I have coming up) and You Are a Badass.

And! If you’re following along on my monthly reviews, I am picking the thriller The Couple Next Door in honor of Halloween. A lot of you have said you need something really engaging to get you back on the reading wagon and although I haven’t read it, my friends say they couldn’t put it down. So grab this one if you want to read together!

LISTENING: My church as our weekend conference and I live for it. There was a few given last weekend as well and I thought this one by Sharon Eubanks was so powerful. You can listen here! Starting Saturday 10 am MST and Sunday the same time.

FEELING: Its been awhile since I checked in on this but October is insane for my fam! Trying not to panic, ha! I have two trips, one for work and one to see my sister and her new baby! We have two different dads of Russ’ coming to visit (separately, luckily) and we had an anniversary trip planned too that we had to cancel due to aforementioned dads. I hope we make it out alive!  I hope you all have a restful weekend and if you’re looking into the barrel of an insane month like us, solidarity.






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