How I dealt with Postpartum Anxiety

We are so grateful to have this thoughtful, open and raw guest post by Cynthia from We are the Jaquezes today sharing her journey and tips on Postpartum Anxiety. If you have other helpful tips that you know of we would love to create a discussion to support other suffering Moms in the comments.

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“Johnny!!! Get him! Get him now!”

“Babe, what’s wrong?”

“I am not sure. I feel ants crawling all over me and I just envisioned myself launching Oliver across the room.”

3 a.m. and I was a sobbing mess telling my husband that I had just envisioned, and had to contain myself from, launching my 2-month-old across the room. I didn’t know why this was happening. It was such a scary and dark time that was filled with guilt for feeling the way I did. All I wanted to do was nurse my baby, but every time he would latch on, this anxious feeling would come over me. It did not take long for me to realize that I was dealing with anxiety and a visit to my midwife and doctor confirmed what I already knew.

When women become mothers, they enter this new chapter of life with many unknowns. No one really tells us that, not only will our bodies change, but so will our hormones, health, and emotions. It isn’t always a negative thing, but for many women it can be. After having Oliver, I started to develop anxiety. I’d heard people talk about how crippling anxiety could be but I had never really experienced that kind of anxiety, but in all honesty I really just thought, why can’t they just fix their thoughts on Jesus and choose to be happy? After experiencing anxiety, I learned that it really isn’t something that we can just choose to turn on or off. Luckily I was able to recognize that I was dealing with anxiety and leaned on a community of women who’ve walked this path into motherhood before me. I received so much support and direction.

Mamas out there, I want you to know that what you are feeling is real. You are not exaggerating, and you aren’t doing anyone any favors by ignoring it. Get help, speak, reach out. There are many women/professionals out there willing to help you overcome this. In my opinion, anxiety is not generally something you want to treat with prescription medication. It’s not that prescription medications are bad necessarily, but there are several side effects and addiction risk that make them less than ideal. In many cases, the problem is not resolved and you are just left with more problems.

Here are a few of the things I did to deal with anxiety.

  • Prayer, lots and lots of prayer. Find your quiet time and allow your mind to slow down and pray.
  • CALM POWDER. Magnesium plays an important role in our overall health. Magnesium is found in leafy greens and many of us simply don’t get enough greens in our diet and therefore are deficient in magnesium.
  • Essential Oils. Yes I know that many of you are probably rolling your eyes but I am only sharing what worked for me. I used these therapeutic grade essential oils from Young Living; joy, valor, white-angelica, cedarwood, frankincense, and lavender. If you have any questions regarding the use of them please connect with me, as I am happy to chat.
  • Get moving and your brain will start producing happy hormones. Seriously anything is better than nothing, so even if its just 5 minutes a day, get moving.
  • Lots of healthy fats, gut healing foods, pastured meats (1-2x wk), supplements, lots of water, and just treating food as a form of self-love.

Sweet sisters, I pray that you find a community that supports you as you deal with this. I want you to know that what you are feeling is real. You are not over-exaggerating and there is light and hope! You will feel like yourself again and soon you’ll start to see the beauty and joy that your sweet baby has brought into this world.

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june & january [giveaway!]

Our first giveaway of New Year, New Baby is with the absolute baby staple powerhouse, June & January! New BabySuch amazing basics, easy prints and pieces and fun colors. So easy to mix and match and they go with anything.juneandjanuary

Tank Jumper //  Tights // Twirl Skirt // Headbands

Check out Lolly, rocking the crop top and romper (which we pray is back this Summer!):

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new year, new baby: organization

We’re back with our annual New Year, New Baby Week! A week of posts and giveaways dedicated to all you new mamas and your babies. Before we jump in here’s all you need to know about years passed. Since we’ve covered lots of ground, here’s what you might’ve missed.New Baby

Fellow parents share their best advice*, birth stories (Little Green Notebook’s will blow your mind!), and insight from all sorts of things. Tips on breastfeeding and support for bottle-feeding. What it feels like to have Post-Partum Depression, how to start exercising again. and our favorite online friends share what they DIDN’T expect when they were expecting.

We review our favorite baby gear from rattles and teethers, bottle-feeding and breastfeeding gear. What to bring to your next baby shower. and our best DIYs for baby.

Sharing our favorite nurseries (minimal, shared baby + sibling, eclectic), tips and hacks.

*Advice from Little Baby Garvin // Honey We’re Home // Girls with Glasses // Say Yes // Brickyard Buffalo // Sometimes Sweet //

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NOW! For this year! Getting organized for a new baby’s arrival can feel overwhelming. You’re not quite sure what you actually need just yet, you’re getting all kinds of darling gifts – so cute you can’t bear to put them away, and making the most of your space. Here’s some of our favorite Nursery Organization Ideas!

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  1. Multi-Purpose. Finding items that serve lots of purposes is always a great idea. Whether it’s dressers that dual as changing tables, bins and holders that bring pattern and brightness to a room. Shelves that show your sweetest heirlooms while keeping them away from tiny hands. This rug from H&M is also your baby’s first race track.
  2. Bins, baskets, and containers. You’ll have so many things that need containing, tiny socks, diapers, toys, books. Good news is they add so much life to a nursery! Click on these below to see them enlarged. All awesome uses of containers! (Pictured above – Orange and Black baskets)

[PHOTOS: 1. Inside Out // 2,4,6. 100 Cakelet // 3. The Glitter Guide // // 5. My Domaine]

3. Space Saving pieces are always a great idea. This wall-mounted diaper changing station is incredible!

4. Organizing by size is an absolute must. But since clothing varies so much from store to store, our best tip is to lay them all out size by size and then arrange them by length. You’ll be amazed how much they vary! Then you can separate them with these cute closet dividers by Lucy Darling. How many times we thought we had time to fit our babies into an outfit to realize they already outgrew it!

5. Hooks and Shelves! When you want to show it off but can’t have it near tiny kids.

Nursery OrganizationMegan Welker Photo // Buy Hexagon Shelves here!

6. Portable is everything when babies are new and you’re needing lots of things at your fingertips all day and night. We love this diaper caddy from Honest. It’s modern and eye-catching, but lightweight and holds everything you need to change a diaper in whatever room you land.

7. Having a great bookshelf gives you not only storage but also lots of surface area for your favorite decor pieces.  This one and lots of other great ones via Land of Nod.Nursery Ideas

8. Kid hangers are tricky and the kind you can by at your local big box store are slippery, flimsy, and can’t handle much weight. Coats and wide necks just don’t cut it. We love these hangers from Couture Closets. They’re notched, can hold up to 16 pounds, have a velvety texture so things don’t slip. And they’re extra narrow so you can pack more on your rack.

grilled mac & cheese

We are back from Alt Summit (check back for a recap soon!), this was the first year we didn’t have to host, teach or speak and it was so nice!! But we couldn’t help but reminisce about past parties like our Garden Party with Cricut, or our Munchkin at Heart Party. Then we got craving the crazy amazing food and bada-bing bada-boom time to whip up some Grilled Mac and Cheese Sandwiches. One long tasty train of thought, right? We knew our boys would love it and sure enough..
Grilled Mac & Cheese

Our 2016 partnership with Annie’s is always proving useful when these cravings hit. First, grab some whole grain wheat bread, Annie’s Organic Grass Fed White Cheddar Shells.

Grilled Mac & CheeseThen whip up your grilled cheese as normal, just swap out the sliced cheddar for the cheddar shells!Grilled Mac & CheeseSlice and eat! Such carb-y goodness! Grilled Mac & CheeseThis post is sponsored by Annie’s, we love being on #teamannies and as always all opinions are our own!

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What I’m Taking With Me: Nicole

Last stop on our 2015 recap and what we’re bringing with us into 2016 is Nicole!

For My Face: You can read up all about my nightly routine in this post, and taking that time for myself will be something I continue to do. I look forward to it so much! A few reminders, Riiviva’s Microdermabrasion Kit does absolute wonders and I love to cap it off and sleep in this Korres Rose Night Mask, smells amazing and is so great for dry Winters.Taking It With Me

For My Body: It might sound silly but an at-home Spray Tan Machine has been one of my favorite purchases this year! I just like to be a little sun-kissed but I hate wrinkles, so this gives me one without the damage sun exposure can bring. I swap sprays with a friend and love it! Also my newest scent from Jo Malone, it smells incredible!

For My Health: The last few months I have really focused on drinking more water and less soda. It actually is the only reason I’ve shed about 10 pounds as well. I can’t explain it but I’ll take those benefits any day! I know most will roll their eyes, but in my case it has been very true. The trick for me is super cold and refreshing and easy to carry around. This White Hydroflask fits all those requirements.

For My Closet: This Winter me and the boys all got Patagonia Nano Puff jackets and its been awesome. They’re so lightweight, but absolutely warm. Easy to stuff in  a backpack, grab and go and lasts even into the Spring months but isn’t too much bulk. My size, and the boys size. Kids are $30 off right now here! nic

For My Kids: Even if I don’t talk about or show typical signs of being stressed, my kids can definitely sense that energy in me. In 2016 I want to make my home as peaceful as it can possibly be. I’ve noticed such a difference in how they react when I’m peaceful.

Lesson Learned: I read Co-Dependent No More this past year and it taught me so much. It is such a great read for anyone who’s dealt with addiction or the addictions of loved ones. It’s more than just for addiction, really any relationship where the other person’s problems are becoming your problems in an unhealthy way. Check it out!

Taking With Me: I am really just ready to take my people with me – the people who are fun and don’t weigh me down. Who are happy regardless of trials and can maintain a positive outlook when things get rough.