sleep regression

We have an awesome guest post today for you all from Heather Turgeon the author of The Happy Sleeper: The Science-Backed Guide to Helping Your Baby Get a Good Night’s Sleep from Newborn to School Age. She recently published this amazing book and offered to share her best tips with you today on the blog, and then also give away books for any of you who need (who doesn’t?) some help in this area on our Instagram! A sleeping child is one of life’s most beautiful scenes and best gifts, and this couldn’t be more evident then when we scrolled waaay back into our Instagram feeds and saw just how often we shared our sleeping angels with our followers

Heather asked us what sleep troubles were ailing us for this post and we all agreed: Sleep Regression. The never ending cha-cha dance of one step forward two steps back. You think your kiddo is sleeping like a rockstar and then they pull an all-nighter… like a rockstar. Here’s what to do!


“Your baby was sleeping well, but now she’s waking up every 1-2 hours, or your preschooler was going down smoothly her first month in the big bed, but now she pops up and joins you in the living room after lights out.

When my partner and I work with families in sleep consultations, we hear the words “She thinks she’s a newborn again!” quite a bit. Here’s why sleep regressions happen, and what you can do to get your family back on track for a full night’s sleep.

The Silver Lining
Whether it’s a 4-month old baby who has reverted to around the clock wake ups, or a formerly champion sleeper who starts resisting bedtime, the good news is that sleep regressions start from your child gaining a new skill. A higher level of consciousness (the main culprit for regressions between 3-6 months), new motor abilities, greater powers of creativity or negotiation (the culprit at 3 years)—all come with novelty and excitement to practice. Every time something changes in your child’s brain, body, or environment (illness, travel, nightmares, new developmental skills…) there’s a chance it will disrupt her sleep and that’s perfectly normal. Your baby’s sleep regression has no bearing on her future sleep habits, so don’t worry that you have a “bad sleeper” on your hands. Good sleepers and bad sleepers actually wake up equally at night, it’s just that the good sleepers have practiced self-soothing and know what to do when they wake up.

Sleep RegressionThe Myth of the “One-Time Fix”
We don’t use the word “sleep training” for a few reasons (most importantly, that sleep is natural, not trained!), but one is that it feeds the notion that sleep should be “fixed” and magically stay good forever. It makes a lot of parents frustrated and confused when sleep derails at some point in the future. Don’t think of healthy sleep as a training program, think of it as a family philosophy that lasts for years and years. That philosophy varies from family to family but it could be: We all prioritize and value our sleep, we keep regular routines and schedules, we have our sleep “stuff”—the loveys (see the Rammell boys with their respective loves below!) and good room environment that make us comfortable, and we fall asleep independently in our own beds at bedtime. (For families who share a bed for part or all of the night, that philosophy will be personalized).Sleep Regression Tips

Helping a Baby Through Regressions
The key to helping a young baby through a sleep regression is to weather the storm by responding to her, but trying not to add in a lot of soothing tricks like bouncing and rocking that the baby didn’t need before. Your baby is excited and much smarter now, so she’s very aware of exactly what you’re doing. Try to discern her sounds at night—is she really calling for you seriously, or is she making all the normal sounds babies make at night, like grunting, fussing or moving around? If parents pause and see if a little less does the trick (patting, shushing, re-inserting the pacifier…) their baby will eventually move through a regression and come out on the other side sleeping well again. The most common reason babies wake up in the night is that they’re placed in their cribs already asleep. As they grow, going into bed awake becomes very important.Sleep Regression Tips

Helping a Child Through Regressions
Sleep regressions come from developmental or environmental changes (imagination leading to fears of the dark, or changing rooms, etc.). The key is to respond to your child’s needs while also keeping the family sleep philosophy intact. Make the room dark during the day and talk about shadows and light to help your child feel safe, and come up with techniques for feeling comfortable at night (share with your child how you do this). One of our favorite techniques for older children at bedtime is to set up an automatic 5-minute check after bedtime (called the Reverse Sleep Wave in our book)—your child only has to lie quietly in her bed and you come to her every 5 minutes until she’s asleep. It shifts the dynamic of bedtime and gives her the peace of mind to know you’re coming back for a small check, so she can relax and fall asleep.”

Thank you so much Heather, we are excited to try all these tips out! You can buy her book and get lots more info on her website, or you Amazon Primers can find it here. And of course, enter to win a free copy at @smallfryblog on Instagram.

Photos taken from our personal Instagram feeds! @emilyframe | @jennaskitchen@nicolecalleen |

bogo 50% target swim!

Just a quick PSA that Target is doing a buy one get one 50% off sale on ALL their swim for Men, Women, Girls, Boys, and Babies too! Even better they are doing free shipping for spending $25. Hurry hurry! As things sell out, don’t fret, buy the wrong size and exchange for the right one when everything restocks!

Here are our favorites!

For Women, so many great One Pieces:

For Girls:

For boys:

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shared nurseries

During our month devoted to new babies and mamas we featured some amazing nurseries from around the web – Graphic Nurseries, Minimal Nurseries, and our favorite DIYs and hacks for them as well! We had a similar question from a few of you, which was “what if they can’t have their own room?” so we wanted to add one more post to the series, shared rooms! Rooms for your new baby and their brother(s) or sister(s)!
Shared NuseriesDeborah Gordon’s shared room. Her whole house is black and white – see the tour here -it’s incredible!38121001Scandinavian DekoShared NuseriesApartment Therapy5370fd638313c$!900xStyle Me PrettyShared NuseriesTwo Points for Honesty (full room tour + sources here.)Shared Nuseries

Melissa Esplin’s kids room.Shared NuseriesBrit + Co. 

We love how each space embraces both ages, that there is plenty to do for any age and can easily transform as they get older! Got any favorite shared spaces to add? Comment below!

nununu sale!

Happy Saturday!!! One of our all time f a v o r i t e kid’s line nununu is having 30 % off EVERYTHING (even sale) today on their site!! If you’ve wanted to purchase one of their uniquely designed & high quality pieces now is the time. We are obsessed with them! See our favorite selections below & also our kids in nununu fashion. nunucollage nunu3 nunu2 nunu1Happy weekend!


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medicine cabinet

By Emily.

If you’re like me, it’s right around this time of year that you start to let your guard down when it comes to illness. The more warm days I see the more comfortable I get. Surely we’re almost out of the woods for cold and flu season, right? Wrong, Emily. Wrong. So this year I am staying diligent until the very bitter end. July. Just kidding, but here are our Small Fry favorites (we also polled our Facebook friends, see the comments here!) for getting us through those heartbreaking days of extra cuddles and extra bowls and sheets. What we swear by in our cold and flu medicine cabinet.Small Fry Medicine Cabinet

First, PREVENTION. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, as they say. I am a firm believer in putting my efforts in keeping my kids’ immune systems strong. Allowing and insisting that they get plenty of sleep. Disinfecting and keeping their spaces clean and aired out. Feeding them as many healthy whole foods as I can each day, and I’ve shared this before but I will share it every time because I absolutely swear by it: Buried Treasure’s Acute Cold and Flu. It’s is packed with nutrients and herbs to boost your immune system and while it’s awesome to take when you’re sick, I give it to my kids every few days to keep them extra strong when they’re well. I mix a tablespoon into a quarter cup of grape juice and then freeze it into popsicles. I can barely choke this stuff down plain, but in grape juice it tastes great. My kids will eat the whole batch in one sitting – but it has to be grape.

I don’t throw this phrase around lightly because I’m superstitious and they used to be sick all the dang time, but my kids get sick (including a runny nose) maybe once a year since I started this stuff a couple years ago. For the popsicles, I use squeezable popsicle molds, I love that I can lay them flat, stick them in whatever crevice is available in my freezer. Trying to store those upright 6 packs are nearly impossible at my house.

Second, you’ve probably read Jenna’s awesome essential oil recipes here and here, they’re another really great addition to preventing illness and also helping treat it. Diffusing oils like On Guard throughout the house is great for maintaining a strong immune system. We all have this pretty diffuser and love it!

This Melagel is not so much for illness as injury. Scrapes and cuts specifically. Another must have. The tea tree oil and other additions speeds up healing time so much and doesn’t leave a scar. So happy to see Melaleuca products on Amazon!

COLD + FEVER: For those times when we can’t avoid the illness, we were recently introduced to the Kinsa Smart Thermometer. This thermometer works in tandem with the Kinsa smart phone app. The thermometer never dies, has an extension cord and reads in 10 seconds. It stores the readings in profiles for each kid and you can keep track of their stats right in the app. We also think the “Group” feature is so cool, you can join a group like a school shown below and see what is happening, being passed around, and how long to expect an illness to last in your community.Kinsa Smart ThermometerWhen you have the fever and chills all you want is to get warm. Toss a blanket in the dryer for an extra kick of heat, take a bath with Babyganics Vapor Bubble Bath, use an all natural vapor rub (or Eucalpyptus or Breathe Essential Oils in the humidifier‘s tray.) This one is Nicole’s favorite.

STOMACH + FLU: Heaven forbid, the flu. Where it’s not so much about treating it as just trying to help them get comfortable and cleaning up the aftermath. We love the reader suggestion to use towels instead of blankets. To lay towels underneath the kiddos in their beds on the couches, etc. They’re so much more absorbent and you’re less likely to damage more expensive textiles. Also, Pendleton towels? For real!

To help settle an upset stomach from the flu or even just car sickness we love these single use Mommy’s Bliss Nausea Relief supplements. Toss one into your kiddo’s back pack for a road trip or bus ride.

We’ve all heard the BRAT diet for the flu – bananas, rice, applesauce, toast. Can we add popsicles? PRABT? It can be hard to get our kids to drink enough fluids to replace what they’ve lost with the flu. Popsicles are a comforting way to increase fluids and try to settle the stomach. These all natural fruit pops are awesome!

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