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FAMILY - deep breaths. ⠀ My single greatest teac

FAMILY - deep breaths.
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My single greatest teacher in this life. It has taught me to love without expectation, to forgive and protect, to apologize and try again, to set boundaries and hold to them. My most important lesson being to honor and respect where my family is in their own healing. To not push or prod, to just let them be. I feel really blessed (and poor, as it took a lot of therapy💸) to feel nothing but love. Is it easy? Heck no. But, I hold no anger or ill will.⠀

When my parents split the divorce was nasty. I can’t imagine divorce as a kid, but as a young adult, it hurt. A lot. We lost our sense of home, and we all sort of spun out into our own directions. Collin was the one who came to me and said, “That’s it! We’re starting Kartchner 2.0. For whoever wants to show up and be a family.” And limping and bruised we did just that. We all had to step into roles we weren’t necessarily built for, and lift where we stood, even when hurting and angry — we showed up. ⠀
Some of my most sacred experiences came from the ashes of a family burned. Walking my sister down the aisle. Standing by my brother as he got sober. Sobbing with my sisters in a pile on the floor at my house, unable to stand another second, heartbroken for our brother. And I’m only just skimming the surface of whatever Collin has in store for me now. How amazing to know the some of our best days haven’t happened yet?!⠀
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It’s not a great feeling to know that the complexities of your family are being discussed on forums and by strangers (Not reading word of it, don’t worry.) No one except us will ever know the truth, and that’s okay, because truly it’s nunya. 😉⠀
But, I just wanted to share this today because I know the Holidays for many are painful. It’s hard to see seemingly picture perfect families and wonder why we struggle so hard. But I know firsthand there is beauty in the ashes. There can be healing even when no one is saying sorry. And you are not alone.

To my parents, Chad, Keira, Charity, Tim, Collin, Liz, Russ, Bethany, Lauren, Casey and everyone we’ve given life to since, thank you for being my family. I love you all. #givethanks #lovelikecollin

When we first moved to our small town a couple yea

When we first moved to our small town a couple years ago I prayed around the clock that my boys would find friends here. They have now, but at the time, it wasn’t smooth sailing. I would take it super hard when they didn’t hit it off with someone, and at my lowest, felt like we made a big mistake. If we were supposed to be here, shouldn’t it be easier?⠀
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Not long after, a neighbor Abby mentioned having Cal play with her son. I truly couldn’t fit all of the challenges Ty and his little body have faced in this caption. Countless surgeries, specialists, medications, and more. He is unique in every way and I thought to myself and maybe even told Abby🙈, “Cal’s just not your guy.” He’s an introvert and a loose cannon, and truly DGAF’s about what anyone thinks of him. He once told me he wouldn’t play with a boy because he smiled too much.😆🙇🏼‍♀️ I thought I would save potentially hurting Abby or Ty’s feelings, and to be honest, avoiding my own embarrassment at what might happen. I had long abandoned trying to fit Cal into the mold I had made for him. What I thought the world needed him to be.
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Gratefully, Abby didn’t give up and we finally got them together. Fast forward a couple of years and the Frames count ourselves so incredibly lucky. Lucky that we get to know and love Ty. Who makes every single one of us laugh until we have tears running down our faces. Who tells me I am so beautiful every time he sees me. Who entertains and plays with us through every church meeting, for hours in our home, and most importantly brings out the very best in Cal. The most happy, patient, imaginative, focused, silly Cal.⠀
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Ty is my reminder of so many things: ⠀
•To get out of my kids’ way. ⠀
•Let them lead, but champion them every step of the way. (Abby taught me that)⠀
•That their (my, your) potential is limitless. ⠀
•We are not our bodies, we are so, so much more. ⠀
•To see things as God sees them. Because He answers our prayers and blesses us in his perfect way, even if we don’t have the eyes to see it perfectly all the time.
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#givethanks

For this guy. Who has been a witness to it all, si

For this guy. Who has been a witness to it all, since I was 15. 🤟🏼🎢 Marriage is filled with duality - one side giving meaning to the other. Better or worse. Feast and famine. Faith and doubt. Although we usually want the same results, our methods are rarely if ever (ever) the same. 😆 Grateful he has never tried to change me, but still challenges and inspires growth just by being himself. I know he could be gone in an instant and I pray I get to pick up his socks for many years to come. #givethanks

The last week or so I have felt the weight of what

The last week or so I have felt the weight of what remains. It is heavy and so much felt like only mine to carry. I physically and figuratively slumped. I have felt resistance and forces hoping to tire me, silence me, and make me doubt to my very core. ⠀
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I know now, there are no days off from finding the light. Inside yourself and in others. I have learned that we all have big brother angels fighting for us, rooting us on, and backing the bullies to the back of the bus. We just need to look up. LOOK UP, Emily! 🙏🏼 #givethanks #lovelikecollin photos by @jefralinn and @heathertelfordphotography

8+ MONTHS of the Woody guy! He has been everyone’s angel baby the last few weeks. Sleeping in many friends and family members’ arms, nuzzling into their necks and playing with their hair. I used to think it was because he loved me so much, but turns out he’ll do it to anyone who needs it. 😆 ⠀
Thank you for loving us all so perfectly Woody, you’ll heal the world with those big ol’ hands. ⠀
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•••8 months, two teeth, crawling, pulling up to stand, obsessed with our new kitty, will eat anything. Including said kitty’s food. 🤢•••

TWO WEEKS. feels like everyday has been a lifetime

TWO WEEKS. feels like everyday has been a lifetime, how can it be? i look at that picture, the last one i took before i got The Call. who’s going to tell her what is ahead? we are not the same human anymore, she and i. grief and loss made sure of that. it is a club no one wants in on, but once you are there? no turning back. we know too much, we have felt too much. what will we do with this Collin shaped crater? we will fill it with love and we will RISE. ⠀
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what has grief taught you? i am new to this, but i’ll be damned if it doesn’t make something more of me.

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